My mom is overweight. Four months ago she weighed 285 and she's around 5'4" tall. She has done every diet invented. She has done Weight Watchers four or five times. She started again two weeks ago. She complains that it just doesn't work for her, the doctor needs to give her medicine to lose weight, she's older, no matter what she does it doesn't work. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I haven't made bad choices, gone from diet to no diet to new diet.
What I haven't done is be completely negative and sabotaging.
When I told my mom about Allan's challenge (with the intent of asking her if she wanted to do it too), the first thing she said was, "There's no way you can win that, why are you bothering?"
On Saturday, at the birthday party, my sister asked how I was doing. My mom heard her and said, "She may have done good this week but she'll never keep it up."
Later she gave me a hard time for not having any birthday cake and ice cream. "It's your daughters' birthday, how can you not eat their cake?" My response, "I'd rather be alive to see them grown than eat cake." So happy I could come up with that quickly!
My sister and I talked about it. We came to the conclusion that my mom likes me fat. If I'm fat, she's not alone. If I'm fat, she has someone to eat with. If I'm fat, she doesn't feel so bad about herself.
Well, sorry, mom, I'm done being fat.
I'm sorry, but your mom is being selfish. I'm sure she doesn't want to be the only "fat" one, but she should want the best for you seeing what she has went through. I think once she sees how good you are doing, she may become inspired to do the same. Don't let her sabotage your efforts, you are kicking butt and have a great chance at winning.
ReplyDeleteEverything she says is negative. She will never lose her weight. She is too busy being miserable. She is a good example of what not to do. It doesn't have to be like that. Be determined to show how to do it right and show her it can be done with the right attitude.
ReplyDeleteMy mother is a bit like yours. I know how it can hurt. Chin up! Prove her wrong!!
ReplyDeleteOh, Beth...it hurt to read that.
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